When a Relaxed Dog Is the Healthiest Dog in the Room (And Why “Busy” Isn’t Always Happy)
Do you ever look at your dog lying down and assume they’re bored, sad, moody, or even depressed?
I hear this all the time —
“He looks so bored…”
“She seems sad…”
“I think he needs more stimulation.”
But in most cases, that relaxed dog is showing me the opposite.
A dog who can lay down, soften their body, and simply be… is usually a dog who feels safe, content, and comfortable in their own skin.
That’s not boredom. That’s peace.
The Dogs I Worry About Aren’t the Ones Relaxing
The dogs I have the most concern for are the ones who:
can’t settle
pace around the home
constantly bring toys
bark for attention
follow you room to room
can’t switch off
seem “wired” even when tired
These dogs often get mislabeled as:
the energetic one
the playful one
the busy one
the dog who “just loves me that much”
But often, it’s not energy.
It’s agitation.
It’s stress.
It’s dysregulation.
And the big misunderstanding many people have is believing:
“My dog will sleep when they’re tired.”
Not always.
Not if they’re stressed.
Not if their nervous system is dysregulated.
Not if they’ve learned that staying busy keeps discomfort at bay.
Busy Behaviours Can Be a Symptom
Some dogs stay constantly active because:
✦ They’re stressed
Their nervous system can’t drop into rest because it doesn’t feel safe yet.
✦ They rely on dopamine
Play, movement, attention — these become coping mechanisms, not choices.
✦ They’ve become hyper-vigilant
Alert to every sound, movement, or change in the home. They feel responsible for monitoring everything.
✦ They’ve formed a habit of never switching off
It becomes learned behaviour: “Stay busy → feel less uncertain.”
These dogs aren’t living joyfully — they’re living in constant activation.
Relaxation Tells a Very Different Story
When I see a dog lying down, calmly, observing the world or fast asleep…
I don’t think:
“He’s bored.”
“She needs something to do.”
I think: “This dog feels safe enough to let the world happen without needing to control it.”
A relaxed dog is showing you:
I don’t feel threatened
I don’t feel responsible for monitoring everything
I’m not chasing dopamine to soothe myself
I trust my environment
I feel safe enough to drop my guard
That is healthy emotional regulation.
That is security.
That is a sign of excellent behavioural health.
A Simple Spot Check
Next time you see your dog doing something you automatically label as “energetic,” pause for a moment and ask:
🔍 Is this really energy… or is it agitation?
🔍 Are they choosing it, or are they stuck in it?
🔍 Is my dog actually struggling to rest?
And next time you see your dog curled up, breathing deeply, fully relaxed…
Let them rest.
Respect the moment.
And appreciate what that tells you about how safe they feel.
Want Help Creating a Dog Who Can Truly Relax?
If your dog struggles to settle, seems constantly “on,” or can’t switch off, you’re not alone — and it’s not a personality trait.
It’s a sign they need support.
Inside Canine Caregivers, I teach you how to help your dog regulate emotionally, feel safe in their environment, and come down from chronic activation so rest becomes normal again.
If you’re in Sydney and want personalised guidance, I’d love to support you and your dog through one-on-one sessions.
👉 Join Canine Caregivers
📞 Or get in touch for 1:1 help in Sydney
— Ian
Bondi Behaviourist
“A healthy dog is a happy dog and a happy dog is great to live with”.
