Your Dog Sleeping On The Bed Is Not A Problem
This still surprises me.
People will sit down with me and say:
“I’ve done a bad thing… I let my dog sleep on the bed.”
And I’m always thinking, (and I mean this in a non personal way)
I don’t care!
Where Does This Guilt Come From?
Somewhere along the way, people have been told that letting their dog sleep on the bed is:
- bad
- dominant
- confusing
- going to cause behaviour problems
So they carry this guilt.
Like they’ve broken a rule.
Like they’ve done something wrong.
But Here’s The Reality
There is nothing inherently wrong with your dog sleeping on the bed.
Nothing.
If:
- your dog is calm
- your dog isn’t aggressive
- your dog isn’t guarding the space
- it’s not causing conflict
- and you actually enjoy it
Then it’s completely fine.
The Only Things That Matter
The real question isn’t: “Is this allowed?”
The real question is: “Does this work for you?”
And: “Does this work for your dog?”
If the answer is yes… There is no problem.
When It Would Be a Problem
There are situations where it might not work.
If:
- your dog is growling or guarding the bed
- it’s affecting your sleep
- it’s creating tension between you and your partner
- or you simply don’t enjoy it
Then yeah — we’d change it.
But not because it’s “bad.”
Because it’s not working.
This Is Bigger Than Just The Bed
This comes up everywhere in dog training.
People worry about:
- where the dog sleeps
- where the dog sits
- what the dog is “allowed” to do
They’re trying to follow rules.
But dog ownership isn’t about following random rules.
It’s about building a life that works.
For you. And for your dog.
Lose The Guilt
If you like your dog sleeping on the bed…
If your dog is relaxed…
If it works for your household…
Then enjoy it.
It’s simple.
You’re not doing anything wrong.
The Takeaway
Not everything is a training problem.
Some things are just preferences.
If it works, keep it.
If it doesn’t, change it.
But don’t carry guilt over something that isn’t actually an issue.
If you’d like help applying this and in doing so, improving your and your your dogs lives, I can support you in a few different ways.
Through Canine Caregivers, I offer
online courses and webinars to build understanding, structure, and consistency at your pace.
If you’re based in Sydney, I also offer 1:1 training across Sydney, socialisation classes, and can provide all recommended training equipment to support the work we’re doing.
I offer The Complete Care training program that covers every single base you will need as well as The Starter Program which allows you to tailor the training and support you need with flexibility.
— Ian
Bondi Behaviourist
“A healthy dog is a happy dog and a happy dog is great to live with”.

Ian Shivers
Pet Parent, Dog Trainer & Behaviourist, podcast and content writer
I’m not here to help you create an obedient dog. I’m here to help you create a better life with your dog built on understanding, trust, and meeting both of your needs.
Whether you’re starting fresh with a new puppy or looking to improve life with your current dog, I’m here to guide you with practical, simple, and effective support.
Hi, my name is Ian, and I’ve been working with dogs and their owners since 2007, helping families build calmer, more connected relationships that last. With 150+ five-star Google reviews, I’m proud to be one of Sydney’s highest-rated behaviourists you can trust.
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